My coaching clients are frequently trying to make big decisions in their careers and lives. What I’ve learned working with the most successful of them is that you can’t thinkyour way to some things, you have to experimentyour way. This…
I often hear complaints about the nefarious activities of peers and colleagues. People will tell me about colleagues who bear them ill will and deliberately try to undermine them or brief against them with superiors. I am not saying no one is ever out to get you, but I do think it’s important to look for the hard evidence.
What evidence have got to support your paranoia? You haven’t been invited to a meeting, possibly deliberate, possibly an oversight. The easiest way to find out is to ask directly. “How come you didn’t invite me to that meeting?” will get you further than sulking and hinting. “Please make sure to invite me next time” is also easier to follow up on if you continue to be left out. Don’t overthink. Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to plot your downfall. And making your expectations clear will put the others on notice.
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