My coaching clients are frequently trying to make big decisions in their careers and lives. What I’ve learned working with the most successful of them is that you can’t thinkyour way to some things, you have to experimentyour way. This…
I have been speaking a lot recently to professional women’s networks. The question of confidence often comes up. Women will talk about lacking the confidence to take on a more senior role, to stand up for something (often themselves), to negotiate a better compensation package and so on. Confidence is often cited as what’s most needed at these junctures. If only you had confidence, you wouldn’t hesitate to have that difficult conversation, to stand your ground, or to go for something you want. But how do you become more confident?
I think an important precursor to confidence is courage. Courage is about knowing you don’t have the confidence but you’re going to do it anyway. Courage is not “fake it till you make it”. Courage is about digging deep and realizing you’ve been brave before when you needed to be and that you’ve done things you never thought you were capable of. Courage is taking the first step, moving forward and doing your best. When you do that and it goes well, you build confidence. When it doesn’t work out, you regroup, maybe get some advice, and try again. Confidence comes after courage.
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